Porn star August Ames (born Mercedes Grabowski) committed suicide on Tuesday after she received backlash on Twitter for saying that she did not want to perform a scene with a gay porn star.
On Sunday, Ames tweeted a warning to whoever was planning to replace her in a scene that they were shooting with someone who performed in gay porn:
whichever (lady) performer is replacing me tomorrow for @EroticaXNews , you’re shooting with a guy who has shot gay porn, just to let cha know. BS is all I can say🤷🏽♀️ Do agents really not care about who they’re representing? #ladirect I do my homework for my body🤓✏️🔍
— August Ames (@AugustAmesxxx) December 3, 2017
Fellow porn star Noelle Easton chimed in by saying that Ames did not want to perform with the gay actor because gay porn stars are held to different safety standards than straight actors (warning: strong language throughout):
If you don't mind me asking, what is the problem with shooting with a guy that has done gay porn in the past? As long as they don't have HIV, why does it matter? (Genuinely curious, btw. Not trying to be rude or impose.)
— Tali Dova (@Tali_Dova) December 3, 2017
They do not follow our testing protocol
— 🍕🌮NoelleEaston🍕🌮 (@NoelleEaston) December 3, 2017
They don't? I thought the whole industry followed the same protocol. Wtf?
— Tali Dova (@Tali_Dova) December 3, 2017
No. Gay performers wear condoms meaning they never have to get tested unless a specific company makes them.
— 🍕🌮NoelleEaston🍕🌮 (@NoelleEaston) December 3, 2017
😩 for real? I think I just facepalmed so hard my hand went through my head. 😒 that's so fucking unsafe. Not even just for the industry. That's unsafe for anyone. 😖
— Tali Dova (@Tali_Dova) December 3, 2017
Scary isn't it? It's not being homophobic trust me, it's just unsafe to fuck someone untested even with a condom and then go back and fuck people in a tested pool because it can spread stds in the straight performer pool
— 🍕🌮NoelleEaston🍕🌮 (@NoelleEaston) December 3, 2017
Despite the mantra that women are allowed to do whatever they want with their bodies and choose who they have sex with, people piled on against Ames and accused her of hating gays.
Fellow porn stars brutally attacked Ames for her post. Jaxton Wheeler told Ames to apologize or to swallow a cyanide pill:
https://t.co/RP4uVgFJbe pic.twitter.com/dEgqnT25P4
— DrSmithers (@MRsmithersMD) December 7, 2017
Sinn Sage posted that Ames’ reason for not wanting to do porn with a gay actor was “bullshit” and that she was discriminating:
bullshit. Before your shoot w said performer, for a bg shoot, he would have to get tested, by the same testing companies we all use.When the results are clear, you are clear to fuck him. AND you can ask to use a condom if you want. So there is literally no reason to discriminate
— Sinn Sage (@sinnsage) December 4, 2017
Eli Hunter said he took offense to Ames’ post:
Exxxactly @JaxtonWheeler It's extremely unfair to be black listed because a ridiculous naive stigmatism created by unethical homophobes. I have been doing films for over 8 years and have never contracted anything because my health and safety comes first. So yes, offense taken.
— Eli Hunter (@Eli_Hunter88) December 4, 2017
Thanks @JaxtonWheeler 4 calling peeps out on their misconception about us "dirty, disgusting" gay/BI performers & our ways of shady business ethics. So we're clear everyone, us performers who like to fuck girls, partake in the same industry testing standards. #NotRocketScience
— Eli Hunter (@Eli_Hunter88) December 4, 2017
Nick Capra also reportedly called Ames the “stupidest woman I’ve ever come across”:
.@nickcapra You're a pile of shit. Are you happy she's dead? You got what you wanted, didn't you? YOU AND PEOPLE LIKE YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE.#KillYourselfToo ɹǝʞɔnɟɹǝɥʇoɯ pic.twitter.com/YCTQVTBet0
— RedEWilling🌛☀️🌜👌 (@RedEWilling) December 7, 2017
Before Ames died, she tweeted a few messages for detractors:
How am I homophobic if I myself am attracted to women? Not wanting to have sex with gay men is not homophobic; they don’t want to have sex with me either👋 so byeeeee
— August Ames (@AugustAmesxxx) December 3, 2017
“Choose who YOU want to work with”
— August Ames (@AugustAmesxxx) December 4, 2017
“Don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable”
“Share your thoughts”
Hmm. Well, I did all three, and twitter took a dump on me🤷🏽♀️
I don’t have anything to apologize for! Apologizing for taking extra steps to ensue that my body stays safe? Fuck you guys attacking me when none of my intentions were malicious. I fucking love the gay community! What the fuck ever! I CHOOSE who I have inside my body. No hate. https://t.co/7dSbq27K2F
— August Ames (@AugustAmesxxx) December 4, 2017
fuck y’all
— August Ames (@AugustAmesxxx) December 5, 2017
The International Business Times reports on Wednesday, the Ventura County Health Care Agency confirmed Ames committed suicide by hanging.
(Image source: Instagram)